I Recently Moved My Dad Far From Home, To Live With Us. How Can I Help Him Adapt?

Changes in routine can be very difficult for people with dementia or Alzheimer’s. And a forced move certainly qualifies as a change in routine. So you have to allow your father time.

 

Allow him to express his feelings – and listen to him. He has concerns which need to be addressed. He has feelings that need to be validated. He needs you to recognize that he’s dealing with true grief…and that he’s losing more of himself every day.

Trying to reason with him may be fruitless, and may cause him more agitation. But when he asks why, you might respond – calmly – “Dad, I know this has been hard for you. But I love you, and I wanted you close to me.”

Some other things you can try:

• Give him a photo album to look at, with photos of family and friends, vacations, and other pleasant memories. This often has a calming effect.
• Allow him to bring any personal items into his room.
• Introduce him to your neighbors and friends.
• If he can still write, give him a journal, and encourage him to express his feelings in it.
• He might benefit from a support group. Contact your local Alzheimer’s Association.
• If nothing else works, give him the opportunity to speak with clergy or a professional counselor.

Your Dad will need plenty of attention, reassurance, and validation. Keep telling him that you love him, you love having him with you, and you’ll always look out for him. Tell him how well he’s doing. And include him in family decisions when possible.

If you’re caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s or dementia, you’ve got a long and rocky road ahead of you. But we can help you navigate it.

At the Law Offices of Alice Reiter Feld & Associates, we practice Elder Law – and only Elder Law. Over the past 33 years, we’ve walked thousands of South Florida families through the Dementia Journey. And we’ve helped them prepare for this journey, as well…with comprehensive estate planning, wills, trusts, powers of attorney, long-term care planning, asset- protection plans, and assistance with Medicaid or the VA.

We know every step of the Dementia Journey. And we’ll get you through it. We’re just a phone call away.