In my practice, I often meet seniors who, for one reason or another, have to move in with their adult children. And I can tell you it's often very challenging...for both parties.
But it doesn't have to be. There are ways that you and your child (and your child's spouse/family) can learn to live with each other...and even grow to love it!
In Part 1, we spoke about a few ways to transform a potentially rough situation into a life-enhancing one. Here are some more...
* HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE! There will certainly be things you're not happy with. But don't go down that road! Accentuate the positive. You may be surprised to find that your positive attitude will spark the same in your child...and make things better for everyone.
* FINANCES - I don't need to tell you about families destroyed because of money. You need to have a clear financial arrangement...perhaps even write it down. Both parties need to know who's paying for what. You need to have a sit-down discussion with your child - before you move in!
* HELPING OUT AROUND THE HOUSE - Your help may be welcome in many circumstances. In others, it may not be. But you'll never know unless, again, you have a conversation about it. Find out where your help might be needed, and where it might be construed as interference.
* FOOD - Tell your child about any dietary restrictions you have (and, perhaps, any foods you can't stand). But be flexible.
Sound confusing? Just wait until you have to work these things out in real-time!
We can help.
At The Law Offices of Alice Reiter Feld & Associates, we've been practicing Elder Law in South Florida for 34 years. We've helped thousands of families find solutions to issues like this. And we've helped them find financial security, as well, with comprehensive estate planning, wills, trusts, powers of attorney, long-term care planning, asset-protection plans, and assistance with Medicaid and the VA.
We'll be there when you need us. And we're just a phone call away.
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